Thursday, March 26, 2009

Gotta Get Out


I've used up so much energy caring for my children and stressing what my husband was doing that I lost my life. I didn't go out much and most of my friends have moved on. They have wonderful social lives and i'm looking around wondering what happened to mine.

Now that my marriage seems to be getting back on track and my children are doing great, i'm longing for things to do and places to go. I don't have as many friends as I once had and the ones I do have are always busy when I want to do something. I need to get out and find a life! I guess it's time for me to make some new friends. How? Where?

I don't remember the last time I went out and wasn't with my husband. We always have a good time, but I need girl's time. There was a time when I had girl's night out every Friday. That was years ago. My best friend moved a few towns away and her job is extremely demanding. I really miss her. At one time I became depressed over the state of my marriage and stopped reaching out to her. I didn't want to be that friend who's complaining about her man every time you speak to her.

The thing is, she stopped calling. I have helped her through a lot of situations. There was a time when I felt like Dear Abby because all I was doing was giving her advice. In a way, it felt like she deserted me when I needed her most. I know I said I didn't want to be that complaining friend, but what's her excuse? I really miss my friend. We email each other from time to time, but I haven't seen her in a year.

I'm tired of going home after work each and every day. My life is getting a bit dull. I might have to start off by doing a movie or museum by myself and go from there. My husband was able to live a full life and I was too busy being a parent to think as much about being in the street. It's my street time now. I need to find myself again. The me that I am got lost in the man that my husband wasn't. I was way too preoccupied with his stuff to pay any attention to mine.

I need to get out of this social rut. Some of my co-workers were talking about going out for drinks after work one day and i'm going to make it happen. If my husband and I can work through all of our drama, I know I can get back the part of my life that I let get away. He had his time and now it's mine.

12 comments:

thegayte-keeper said...

I don't blame you one bit...being the SUPER WIFE, MOM & WOMAN takes it's toll on a woman when she gives all of herself and not give anything to herself...so get out there enjoy your life...

Dabizniz said...

You do just that, what ever it takes to bring back those years

Just Jasmine said...

I definitely think women are always more devoted to family and we tend to forget that we need to devote time to our wellness and this does include having a social life apart from being a mrs. and a mommy. Time out with your friends and family keeps you sane.

don't think of it is he did him, now it's time to do me, but think of it as i need some me time.

Have funn but stay away from Patron. Nothing good will come of that meeting

Tigeress said...

Going out with your colleagues is a good thing. I personally dont think a womans' life should totally revolve around her husband and children.

Have fun!

Lil Honey B said...

Yes girl, that's what's up! Like I say, 2009 is my time to shine. So shine on, mama and get it POPPIN'!!!

the YOUNG LIONESS said...

Have fun! This is the only life you have, make the years well spent whenever you can...especially considering so much of you is devoted to others

Scorned Woman said...

I'm in the midst of setting up a girl's night. So far my sisters, friend, and husband's cousin will be going. I'm excited. I'm ready to start another chapter of my life. The past couple of years have really changed me. I'm stronger and ready to share the new me with the world.

Sunshinelovespeace said...

I think that getting out will also add a new element to your relationship with the hubby. I think our men like to see us engaging in activities without them. Maybe in a way it makes them miss us. You know, knowing that you're out having a good time with out them. It gets their little minds a wondering....
I wish you lots of success with your girls night. Have fun!

Bond Girl said...

Girls' Night out is essential for sanity. Even if it's just once a month, you need to drop the wife, mom persona and live it up. Just do it and have fun when you do.

Enkay said...

Hi! My first time here and I just returned from reading all your posts from the beginning!

Truly inspired and happy for the progress you've made so far.

I'll surely be back!

Soulstress said...

Its def time for u to get out and have sum fun. Happy hour w/ co-workers is always nice..granted u have kewl co workers lol. Hope evyrthin works out w/ r girls nite!

Tigeress said...

How did the nite out go?